I have been in the United States in the ballpark of 5 years. I came here as a student at a certain university in America's heartland, and now have a secure job. So it's quite a moot point to even say that I am not thinking of going back to Nepal. However, I still love my country and make it a personal goal to visit Nepal at least once annually. My parents have gotten a bit old and their wellbeing is always on my mind. I try to send a couple of hundred dollars to them on a monthly basis if my financial situation allows it. I talk to them by phone every week. Lately, it has come to my attention via my aunt that my parents have been searching for a prosprective groom, who in fact happens to be in Nepal. So I am in a quandary.
There is a secret that I have been hiding from my parents. I, by no means, believe in abiding by antiquated beliefs like arranged marriage. So a couple of years ago, I decided to start dating. I dated mostly White people most of the time and never really met my match. I dated a few Indians and Nepalis as well. None of them had the qualities I was looking for. Then a few months later of this little adventure, I met a Pakistani man, who was in one of my classes. Being that he and I were the only South Asians in class, we already had one thing in common. We did projects given by our teacher together. This man was a straight-A student. With his chiseled looks of a Greco-Roman statue, he instantly managed to win over my heart. As I chatted with him, and learned more about this guy, I found out that I had almost everything in common with this guy. Our relationship was strictly platonic at that point. After a few months of dating, he professed his love for me. As our relationship flowered, it slowly took on a sexual dimension as well. In fact I lost my virginity to this guy.
He has recently proposed to me. I of course said yes. Now I am in a quandary. I am not sure how to let my parents know that I am going to marry a Pakistani guy. He has said that he also wants me to convert to Islam. I am okay with it, but I don't know how my parents would react as they are quite traditional. But my mind is set.

So how do I tell my parents? Can somebody help?
Thanks in advance.

Aaliyah, hmmm.. did that guy give u this name?

do what u want with your life, don ask shit here, nobodyz gonna help you out here anyway; instead, this is going to complicate matters even more because you are going to learn about your fears HERE !!

DO YOU THINK YOU CAN FIT INTO ISLAM ?? (NOTHIN AGAINST ISLAM )

HAPPY WEDDING !!!

Hah! what a harsh comment by Paaru. There isn't such law that specifies a Nepali should marry a Nepali and it doesn't either say you will be happily married with a Neplali or does it? I wonder.Picking your partner entirely depends on your liking or whatever.... and as Anon said (bro bhandina hai aba..:D)....Aliyah bees will Buzzzzz around you but it's you who has to take decision.

All the Best Aliyah.

'Flippy'

Hami k bhanam...Ababa JIHAD Jindabad bhana ani basa. Baru Troy alabama ma gayera padai chai saka hai

As far as telling your parents is concerned,(which by the way is your main question) just tell them via phone. They'll have a heart attack anyways. At least you wont see their pain with your own eyes. You'll just hear it. I guess thats better. I'm not being cynical. And as far as your parents health is concerned, I guess you wont have to worry about it.
There's your rights to your life, then there's your obligations to those who gave you the right to to enjoy those rights. Choose wisely. ;=)

There goes it...one more nepali girl slippin out of us nepali guys....whats goin on....

chillin dherrai chill gare pachi testai huncha...:P

Hi
I guess you will have hard time with pakistani mulla!!!shame to you, want to become muslim ?these paksintani knows how to trap the nepali girls,seen the such case before,end with divorce.

We just need a bigger community here. Girls need guys who have good figure, nice nature and financially stable. And we dont have a lot of guys like that in the US. Indians and Pakistanis are in such numbers that AT LEAST ONE OR TWO will turn out to be that type. And its not just Nepali girls, even Nepali guys dont find girls who are stable, not bad with looks and good nature.
New Nepali blokes in the US usually possess only 2 of the above 3 characters. Theyre either beer bellied dumbos with an A+ grade and a high thinking level, or just totally messed up idiot with rich parents back home and a built figure based on steroids or whatever. Same thing with most of the girls. We're in the preliminary stage. There'll be a few who go in our view may go astray. Just wait for a few more years chillin. Youll find some good ones. ;=)

नेपाली केटोहरु खैरेनीका पछि लाग्दा केहि नभइन्ग!!!
अब जब नेपाली केटि पाकिस्तानिको पछि लागिन्ग त जम्मैलाइ टाउको दुखिन्ग!!!
तर मैले एकुन्टा कुरा नबुझिन्ङग, त्यो मोरा केटालाइ एउटै धर्म हुनुपर्ने भे किन उ हिन्दु नबनिन्ग???
खोइ लप नै पर्‍‌या भे त धर्म चेन्ज भन्न नपरिन्ग!!!.....:P....:D

Pahila suru ta nirman ko Nepali nai malai daami laging.
Nirman sita ma pani sahamat bhaing, maile pani lamo lamo post haru lekheko chu, tara mero main message pani autai bhaing.
Why not Mr Pakistan paani Miss Nepali sita 7 choti aago waripari naghuming????

मेरो गुरुमा म्याट्रिक्सबाट मैले सिकिन्ग यो नेपाली!!!
साझा भरिमा उहाँको COPYRIGHT लागिन्ग यो भाषामा!!!...:)
Copyright defaultइन्ग will be prosecutइन्ग as per Sajha Federal law...:D

hi a...
paki bhai might be big sort. cause, I have seen some married woman with kid also run away with some big sort paki bhai.

bIG SORT??? WHATS A big sort???

hi timetraveller dude,
big sort mean load with cash or money...

aaliyah

Here question is not about dating Pakitani, but the question is about her tendency of changing boyfriends with various types of enjoyments.
My suggestion is "Choose anyone who can give you maximum pleasure? Lau Jaa....

some of your options:

1) if you give me your parents' number, i will tell them. does in sound ridiculous ? may be that's because you don't know that i am no less than shah rukh khan of any of his movies when it comes to handling this kind of situation. i can do anything. main hoon na.

2) Tell the pakistani guy to talk to your parents or visit them in Nepal. Let him do it for the both of you.

if i were to fall for a muslim girl i would never ask her to convert to any religion. i am sure that the guy that you are in love with also doesn't really care, but it might be his parents or family who has put the condition that the girl he is going to marry has to be a muslim. and thus, this ridiculous 'sacrifice'.

Whoever prefer, they will suffer.
Getting married with pakistani means getting in trouble. I have seen this around. they will never be hindu BUT you have to be muslim one day soon, if you don't want to convert, u will face the consequences like divorce and hate.
Don't give me bs that i am being racist or anything. I am not being anything. Just speaking out my mind, wat i think and wat i prefer.

I say go ahead.

Marry a Pakistani. Become a Muslim. Wear the Burkha--never show your face to anyone for months. Attend the most orthodox religious school in Pakistan. Show that religion does not affect from what you want to do. Even if you don't like it, do them all--just for the heck it. Diversify your interests. At the end, you will realize, there is something about it that you don't like. Divorce him.

Marry an African. Go to Africa. Spend some time with tribal people. Identify with the tribesRun around hunting for hippos, and african wild animals. Do some diamond business..make lots of money. Show that the color is not an issue with you. . Go to Somalia. Give some food to hungry kids. Make them happy. At the end that's not where you belong. Divorce him.

Marry a Mexican. Go to rural mexico. See how people, who almost look like your uncles, cousins, take totally by your surprise. Smoke weeds; operate illegal businesses. Take risks. Come to US illegally, even though you hold H1-B or permanency. Cross the three day long desert with just a bottle of water, with hundreds of other Mexicans. At the end, this is not where you belong. Divorce him too.

Marry nobody. Become a monk, for few months.. Spend your time in a monastery, doing all sorts of crazy things. Maintain celibacy. Act like a monk.

The point is: There is no such thing as true love. Diversify your intersts. Increase uncertainity. Divesity and uncertainity bring thrills in your life.
The fact that your parents love you does not mean that they do not mistakes. So don't be obligated to follow what your parents feel. However give some consideration what your parents has to say. After all, you are born from Nepali parents.

Sorry for the typos.

Guest 4, thats the right explanation.
choice is always urs girls.
dont regret in the future.
2 dinko pyar ko chakkar le dhoka hola jivan bhari lai.
I dont think any nepali parents would like their kids lagan gatho with muslim.
after all its all ur choice.
Jawani ma pyar ko hoina badi pyas ko nasha chadcha.
thats not bad. but limit it. pyas bujhaye bhandai ma bihe nai garnu parne chaina..
Period.