MY COUSIN RECENTLY TOLD ME SHE LOVES ME AND SHE WANTS TO MARRY ME AND BE WITH ME. I HAVE BEEN DYING TO HEAR THAT WORD FOR THE LAST FEW YEARS.  . we both been here in US for like 2 years now and we live together. I ALWAYS LIKED HER AND I HAD A PREETY GOOD SENSE THAT SHE LIKES ME TOO. BUT THE PROBLEM HERE IS THAT I WANT TO LET OUR FAMILY KNOW ABOUT OUR RELATION BUT SHE DOESNOT WANNA DO THAT.
HELP ME GUYS.I DONT WANT TO LEAVE HER AND I KNOW SHE DOESNOT WANT TO DO THAT EITHER.

The originator of this thread must be dead already. His problem is a rare problem. I don't know why you guys are so excited.

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one word. TABOO. one should not act in such indulgence. there are plenty of fishes out there and one should not learn to only look at the pond.
You would regret it later bro...............if you make the decision to marry your own cousin-sister.

Gurung Magar community have always been marrying their Mama's daughter. Mama's daughter are called Saali and not sister. But marrying your Kaka's son or daughter does not happen though.

If you marry her grandparents will roll over in the graves.

If you marry her grandparents will roll over in the graves.

 

LifeisaHighway, so what did you end up doing? Were you just a troll?

LifeisaHighway, hope you got somebody else by now.

Highway Som: Aafnai didi bahini lai pani bhyaidine? YoTaBhayanaNiSom...

the best solution is here:

Lifeisahighway bro, You better start thinking about it seriously. I mean, this is the real Nepali community and by that i mean, SAJHA. Timle yaha jati ra jasto positive / negative response payo testai reponse pauchha jindagi bhari. If u can reply or ignore all of these responses and move forward with your cousin as your wife, then go ahead.. and, u know very well that you will have the toughest social life b'coz its like betraying your family and relatives (both of you)..

Radiohead, thats really funny yet true.. Seriously, life bro, you can try this.. lol.

Hope you will make a better choice.Good luck.

where's the bhustighre talking about gurungs and bahuns?
dude, it might not be a taboo in your culture but scientifically it's unapproved of. inbreeding (marrying, sexing and making babies with a close relative) produces messy babies - because both dad and mom have very similar genetic makeup. this means if there are any disease prone genes (often recessive) in your family pool, they'll be expressed and widespread in all your babies and their babies' pedigrees.
that's why most cultures in the world avoid and discourage inbreeding. there are reasons behind most of our social laws and practices. reasoning should not be limited to bahun/chhetri or hindu/muslim confinaries.

HAAD NAATA KARANI  ko case lagla hai bro

It's always hard to distinguish love and lust. Esp in usa where you have least contact with alike people. But pls think thousand times before jumping into this formal relationship. Carnal desires are common for opposite sex. Just try to arrange somebody for your sister and let her do it for you ( for marriage). In this way the problem might get solved. After a long time you may think of this as 'bachha bachhi ma bhadakuti khele jasto'. I don't know about the morality, as it depends on the culture you are grown up into.
Being social being you should think about the stigma that comes to you and your child, if this occur.
Just get married with somebody else and let her get married too.

Best of luck

This is a known practice in Nepal among different communities and ethnic groups. Gurungs do this. Mama ko chori are the first candidate they are supposed to ask for marriage. Similarly, thakuris also have this tradition very common. I am half thakuri and I know a lot of relatives in my family has similar kind of marriage. Tharus often marry their bhauju if anything happens to Dai. Although these things have been very common to our tradition and stuffs, but it should be stopped and highly discouraged.

In your case the best will be to talk to your parents and see their reaction and go ahead accordingly. 

ha ha...nice answer jogi sir...

sick people man who will [Disallowed String for - bad word] ur own cousin only dirty rednecks will do

Ask the pandit ( guru ) to  change you to Thakuri ( shah) or Gurung ( some mangol cast) or a Muslim has tradition to marry maamaa cheli or fufu cheli.

 timro ama ko ra mama ko blood relation ta autai ho ni sathi, ani yo relation lai timi kasari bind garna sakchau?? , I know some ethinic groups of nepal adore this kind of relationship but you have to defend yourself from doing this. The result could be something that you don't want to hear or happen. Be a wise man and find somebody to start a healthy relatioship. And one more thing, do not just ignore your cousin, convince her about the dark side  and find somebody who would love her more than you do. Be a man! dough.