Hi guys, i m having too much of tension and stree these days ! so i just need some of your ideas regarding my problem. Hopefully you'll give me suggestion ..Here's my problem.

I am a college girl and currently i am in United States. I have been in love with this guy when i was in Nepal and i still love him the same. Right now he is in Nepal, he is trying to come here but as he is applying for the Green Card(through his parents, they live in US for many years and they're US citizen), its taking a long time for getting all his paper works done. But whenever i talk to him over phone these days, we always fight..The way he talks is very different. Kehi kura garyo bhane pani maile nakkal garyo bhancha, i know couple of his girl friends(keti sathi) in Nepal, and he thinks that i m copying him..When i colored my hair today and sent him a picture, he says i m trying to follow Sapana(name changed)..I dont know why he treats me like that ? When i was talking with him on the phone, he said you're trying to talk like Sapana, maile nakkal gare re ? so these days i think if i get married to him, how is he gonna treat me like ? is he gonna treat me the same way he's doing right now ? I know i really like the guy and all my families and his families know abt our Love affairs, But at the same time, i am worried abt my future life....Tyo keta sanga bihe garyo bhane, ma khusi nai hudaina jasto lagcha malai...But i wanna get married to him. I feel like my life sucks. I feel like doing suicide these days, i always cry. Since there's no any Nepalese around my place or city, i live alone and that's what i think abt every single days, I can't take any decisions...What i really should do ? Its been like more than 3 years i m in US, i've been living by myself, i rarely go outside, i don't know any nepalese around the city, i feel like my Life Really Sucks...Ahile samma Driver's License pani lina sakeko chaina....ma k garu, kata jaun, I feel like crying every moment...Yeti dherai tension cha malai....I was majoring in Nursing but right now i changed to different subject and now its gonna take me another 3-4 Years,I've to study all the prerequisite...I changed my major cuz i though Nursing would be tough later....I've nobody to help me decide anything...So i came to know abt Sajha.com through one of my friend and i thought of posting my problem in here , so that i could get some feedbacks...Hopefully you guys will respond me with some ideas so that i can do much better in upcoming days.
Thanks a Lot..
Racheeta(somewhere in US.)

GOODNESS, Ore they like TIBETAN? Now who can be NOT NEPALI BUT UNDERSTAND NEPALI, I'D THINK IT'S CERTAINLY TIBETAN. ;] But yeah, nice E-meeting you too.

Hey Racheta,
Listen to my advice!

First of all I see you sad.
The reason for your sadness is not the guy in the first place.
You are depressed that you dont have friends there.
THe fact that you raise saying you still dont have DL makes me think you are feeling unsecured in US.
How long have you been here?
You are feeling alone. And you think after the guy come, you will be okay?????
NO NO NO.

Love is illusion. There is not such thing like love(talking about male female love) Only people who think they need help seek lovers. Strong person dont need lovers.

The cure.
Be strong be positive. Damn that bf who cant understnd you. Look for some friends( not lovers) who can understand you and who has the same situations.
This will make you feel better.
Talk to somebody who listens.
Keep yourself busy.
Dont think of lovers.
That will sure help.

Email me at dhotidaddy@yahoo.com

Mmk. Thx, nice email too.

Thats not a fake email. I like some humor in life, plus I don't want everybody here to know who I am. By the way, those 2 sisters of mine are actually my cousins. I'm planning to visit them sometime soon.

;O Cousins.. Hmm.. Okay! I didn't say your email was fake at oll its funny but why "dhoti"?

Just to be funny!!! :) Remember.... humor in life thing that I said earlier???

I have cousins in TO too! what a small world.. lol kidding.

man azn, you're young!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Scorpigirl,
Toronto jaane? :)

Racheeta, maya ka kura ani bhet ghat sab bekar hoon. My GF betrayed me and married a phd candidate. So for now, focus on your study.

Dyumn... this thread has certainly grown. Racheeta's head should now be reeling with all the advice.:)

Danny da.... longggggg time no see... whats happening at your end.. I know I have not been that responsive either. But hey, at least we still care;) Do mail me...

looking at the frequency and enthusiasm of people replying to this thread, it seems to me that their bf or gf too do not care about them LOL!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA :D

to racheeta:

chillax! don't cry! suicide for a guy who doesn't care about YOU? you must be kidding....hehe
next time when you go to nepal, grab him by his shirt and kick his ass 11 times- 1 from my side hai? :P

Besides various beautiful songs, here is the link ( a poem from Youtube) for people like Racheeta, Srijana ( in other thread).

Poem for Racheeta, srijana & similar cases

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4q8KKy0qMNQ

Personally, I liked the second poem.

-BD

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Rachetta!!!
dont b sad and depressed.Try to b strong and have faith in god.everything will b alright.focus in ur studies.

Racheeta,
Timro kura sunera ta hanso lagyo. timi sano sansar ma bancheko justo lagyo. US ma aayera aafno dream pura garna tira laga. Nothing will gonna happen after you will married also. Khutta chanjel jutta jati pani paincha. Don't even worry and don't even think about somebody if you don't like them. It doesn't matter if he is your boy freind or cousins whatever. Jasari aafu le sansar ma sochyo sansar testai huna aauncha. Timi lai tension dine manche sanga tada basa problem finished. Just do what you have to do. Don't think more than that

best of luck for your study .your study is most important then anything else.

Racheeta, Thats due to Distance relationship and Jealousy. Your BF might thinks that you are in USA and hanging around with many other guys thats why he treats you in this rude way. But why do u think too much about him? Just damn care about him...coz there is no any reasons to love him who doesn't love u.

Racheeta:

There are too many issues here. I second Catchengle's opinion. Life is bigger than anything else. You must be just 21-22.......you stll have so much to live. You are too young to think you are seriously in love and can die for this guy. FOCUS on your EDUCATION FIRST! Go to the local driving class and get your driver's liscence. YOU are in United States...not in Nepal... here you are self-sustained. There is no cultural/traditional backholding to your going out/dining out alone.....you know what i mean... you can go to movie alone and yet you feel safe here..you can go to dine alone and yet nobody will mock you...you can travel alone and nobody will raise their eyebrows. GET THE POINT???? Take all the good things that US offesr to you. Once you conquer your fears and loneliness....you will feel the strength to do anything you want in life. Meanwhile.... I may not suggest you to dump your BF...just try to look at things from his perspective too. He is there alone in familiar surroundings...in place where you used to be and now is VOID due to your absence....he has to live that emptyness everyday (that is if he truly loves you!).... sot that is only natural that he taunts you sometime....THAT IS HIS INSECURITY manifesting. For crying out LOUD...you are in a country which depicts herself as free and independent...and people in nepal also sees it as a country which has lots of moral vices. So, my point is....he is just feeling insecure and scared that he may lose you in all this web. He is being delusional. And when you colored your hair....he is more scared because he thinks you are coloring yourself in the colors of this society's fashion. My guess is.... you must have been pretty homely gal back in nepal...and he always perceived you as someone so pure and diffrent that all of his other "kety saathharu".... now that you took one step...and he fears you rea becoming them. THE KEY to this relationship would be understanding, clearing out misunderstanding, and CONVERSATION!! what you told us in sajha...tell him.... write to him if you cant say in so many words.....writing is very powerful. If he still does not understand,,,,, then this relationship may not be worth your emotions!

Email me if you would like to talk more.

I wish you all the best in whatever step you take....except for pushing yourself further down in the quicksand of melancholy!

haha Daddy, maybe jaane.

ke dincheu malai?